"out there"



My life is a film. I am sitting on my 30-year-old wooden, in some spots fractured dining room table, with autumn jazz playlist in the background. The fresh air smuggling in between the drops of rain is coming out of the window, while I am snacking on some fruits and drinking chai latte, reading my best friend’s short story. He is a writer. And he is a damn good one.



I never read much of my contemporaries’ writings. Not that I don’t want to, I just never feel drawn in. I never feel I can relate. I now realize the condescending sound of it. Maybe I should read more. But somehow, I never have the time for it. Who has the time nowadays? Lucky me, though, two of my best friends, are amazing writers. Still young, never published, but I swear, when you look at them, their soul just screams out “a writer”. They sometimes don’t believe they are though, maybe even most times they don’t. You could see their eyes smiling in doubt when sharing their work. But when they are in their writer aura, finding themselves in front of a bookshelf in an old thrift store, cleaning out the dust of an old novel and telling you the whole biography of this author you’ve never heard of, cherishing his work like no one ever did before, life just suddenly is given another meaning. Or when you see them writing, choosing their words so carefully, playing around with their style while passing through all their levels of insecurity and vulnerability, grasping peculiar moments of life in the most meticulous way, and you get to see their true nature pouring out of them in a form of a poem or a story, allowing the risk of showing their fragile, genuine heart. All else then, starts to seem so much deeper, so much truer. You start to understand, too. You start to love life again, through them, in that moment, you start to love you too.



I’ve never told them this, I think. I hope they find out on their own. It’s always best to find out on your own.



And yet, after few moments have passed, I find myself looking for “out there”. My life isn’t a film. My life isn’t anything. There is nothing. I am nothing. I look at the sky, it’s beautiful. But the sky is not here. The sky is “out there”. I wish I was there. Enmeshed with it. I bet “out there” is so much better. “Out there” is calm. “Out there” has depth. “Out there” is filled with the truest truth. I wonder who is “out there”. I wonder who has gotten the chance to experience the bliss of it. They must have deserved it. They must have had suffered enough and came out on the better side. They must have fought. They must have been really nice people. I wish I knew some of them. I think I met some people that could have been them. I never knew for sure, though. I never had enough time to get to know them. But they always gave me the same feeling. They always gave me a small piece of that depth. And it always stayed in me, for days. Sometimes, if it was a good one, it was months. I wonder where they are now. Are they “out there”? I hope they are. I hope they always will be. There is no better place than “out there”. I hope they always stay there.



And then I take a breath, I get back here. I am thinking, why do I always think of “out there”? I look around me, and I start to really see. I see the painting hung on my bedroom wall. It was painted by a friend of mine. It’s a painting of me. I see the eyes, and I see me. I see the colors. It is me. How could have he, painted such truth? How could have he, grasped such depth? “He’s a true artist”, I think. I’ve never seen a truest one. And his art, with all its truth, is here. It is here, right in front of me.



Then I think of my friend. He is such that, words can barely suffice to describe. It’s hard to capture his intellect with words, even more so his spirit. I never try to. I would just show this painting. And everyone, each one of them would look at it, and I know they think the same. I see it in all their eyes. They’ve never seen such depth. They’ve never seen such truth.



And even them. The ones that look at it. I see their lives, they are a film. They never think of it, but when I see, I see each one of them, just incidentally tangled in their own essence, innocently creating, the most dramatic, the most poetic story. I wish I had the time to write it. I’d write all of it. But, I don’t believe I could ever grasp the trueness of it. The trueness of each moment, the trueness of all of it. There is no better story, than the one of the truth. One that is real. One that is raw. One with all the words unsaid, and all the feelings felt. All the thoughts stilled, and all the wishes unfulfilled. One that is in the deepest parts of each one of us.



What can we do, then? I guess, we can only look at it. We don’t have to write it. We don’t even have to say it. The only thing we can, and I believe, we have to do is, to see it. This time, for real. With all the truth. All the rawness. With all the words unsaid, with all the feelings felt. All the thoughts stilled and all the wishes unfulfilled.






with all

the depth

in us.







Maybe then, maybe, we won’t be looking at “out there”. Maybe then, “out there" won’t be as far away. Maybe then, “out there”, will be right here.


And for today, that is my only wish. To forget about “out there”.


Today, I just want to be right here.







My life is a film…